ow often do you feel like you are managing your life, instead of life managing you? How frequently do you choose your responses to a stressful situation, instead of defaulting to overwhelm, anger, a victim mentality, or deep feelings of guilt?
The one constant in life is change. We all know that. And while striving to straighten out life’s curveballs is futile, we can learn strategies to hit them out of the park no matter what their speed or velocity.
Why We React Instead of Respond
Overwhelm, anxiety, self-doubt, inadequacy, and unworthiness are indulgent emotions. They are familiar and we get to them fast whenever we’re triggered by a stressful situation.
These emotions are the result of unconscious thoughts that are often not even fully formed. This is why tears come to our eyes before we know why, or we erupt in a burst of anger before we realize what actually set us off.
The danger here is that these strong reactions impact those around us, play a role in the kind of relationships we have with others, and shape how we view our lives. Master Coach Brooke Castillo says, “If you spend a lot of time indulging in emotions that don’t serve you, you’re going to have results in your life that you don’t want.”
These strategies will help you be your best self in the midst of the most stressful situations.
The most effective solution is to practice looking within the second you feel any strong emotion coming to the surface. Breathe deeply, keep your mouth shut (to protect those around you!), and quiet your mind until you identify the trigger.
There is always one to find. Your reactions have nothing to do with the other person involved and everything to do with you, and the opposite is true as well. This can be incredibly freeing because it means that in most situations, you already have everything you need to feel better.
It also means that you only have to own your responses, not the reactions of others.
Do the Work
Now the real work begins. Over the years, we’ve all built superhighways in our minds. These are learned responses that have been ingrained over time.
This explains why we create the same results in our lives, over and over again. Our brains are highly efficient and when a thought creates a familiar emotion, like overwhelm, it already knows what to do.
Until we create awareness around this subconscious process, we respond the same way we do every time we are overwhelmed, leading to the same result — which is typically what we just can’t seem to change in our lives.
Read this blog to learn more about how to change your thoughts and choose how you want to feel in any situation.
So we need to build a new superhighway. This takes dedication, increasing awareness, practice, and a lot of grace because you will resort back to the old pattern, and that’s okay.
Eventually, it will become easier to choose the response you’re intentionally working toward.
Make the Ultimate Investment
It is possible to achieve the results you want on your own, but it is more challenging and will take longer. Working with a coach can help you build new superhighways more quickly, providing invaluable insight into things you can’t see yourself and the accountability you need to create sustainable change.
Schedule a free consultation to learn how you can choose your responses to the most stressful situations and experience a deeper level of fulfillment, passion, and joy.